Scenario 5: You don’t get along with a colleague
It is inevitable to have conflict in the workplace. “But concern arises when the conflict morphs into a recurring pattern, fostering sustained tension,” said Dr Tan, especially when there is inadequate communication among colleagues.
For instance, whenever you try to get your point across, the colleague whom you don’t get along with, always dismisses it and ensures that everyone agrees with him or her, said Lim. There are other signs, too, that can be observed, such as not engaging in small talk or not interacting with said colleague during work hours or after.
Dr Tan suggested having “open, honest communication with your colleague” or learn conflict-resolution skills from books, workshops or podcasts. “However, it’s important to note that active listening emerges as another key component in bolstering the efficacy of communication, ensuring that everyone feels seen and heard.”
However, if that’s a big step to take, you can start by learning about where your work values lie, said Lim. “For example, question your capability to tolerate an individual who constantly takes credit for your work as well as how you usually manage conflicts with others.
“You can talk it through with your family members and their experiences with their colleagues. From there, you can discover what works best for you when maintaining work relationships,” said Lim.